Category Archives: daughters

The variety of their walking

  My friend Lloyd Nebres is Pono’s father. They live in Hawaii. http://www.iphoneogram.com/u/9354 Lloyd wrote these words about watching Pono go. He said it for me. “I have this ritual, something I’ve done since Pono was in elementary school. Whenever I … Continue reading

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Love letter to my firstborn

My dear Sahar, You were sitting in my lap in the front seat of our car. Your father was driving. I was crying. “My baby, my baby,” I whispered, holding you tight. We had just found out that we were … Continue reading

Posted in angels, anger, baby talk, Bhai, child rearing, childhood, daughters, family, firstborn, girl child, motherhood, parenthood, sisterhood, World peace | 6 Comments

Rage, rage against the dying of the light

“That girl, your friend’s niece, she got married?” It was a really random question I asked my mother. We were finishing dinner, she and I. The children had already eaten, I could hear a music based reality show on the … Continue reading

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Why I write about things we have forgotten.

Many of the columns I write for Mint Lounge are difficult to write. I stay up nights. I sleep a lot. I wake up with sentences and connections in my head. I quickly write lines on the iPhone and put … Continue reading

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The angel is back

Everything has changed. After a long gap, Sahar has returned to being an angel again. My samajhdar beti. The one who you can talk to and explain very complex ideas as well. She was born with this gift. When Sahar … Continue reading

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